I have just finished reading The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks. It is not the first time I’ve read this book, but it is the first time I can truly say it feels like Hendrick’s theory will stick.
His theory is this: We all inherited a limit in childhood for happiness, success, love, and abundance. This settling point became our belief about how much good we could have or feel in our life. According to Hendricks, this leaves most of us with an Upper Limit Problem. When we begin to exceed our own expectations, we will do something to sabotage that. The ways in which we sabotage are many, too many for the scope of this blog post.
Once we become conscious of this Upper Limit Problem, and change our beliefs about what we are really capable and worthy of, life becomes more fulfilling, abundant, and exciting. After reading his book three times, at three different stages of life, I can finally say I get it now. I’m a believer.
It is amazing to me how our attitude about time can actually change our experience of time.
In his book The Big Leap, psychologist and author Gay Hendricks writes that “Time feels like an ever-present entity, hovering in the background of our lives.” But to expand time, he explains, we simply need to bring our full consciousness into the present moment. In this way, we can make time.
Part of what I love about simplifying life is that it leaves more time for what matters most to me. But I had never fully grasped what Hendricks describes as “Einstein time” until I consciously set my mind to it. One day, while starting to fret about the seeming lack of time for everything that I wanted to get done, I stopped. I shifted to a belief that I had all the time that I needed. Then I set about doing one thing, then the next and the next, mindfully.
I was present and relaxed that whole day and everything that I wanted done got done. My shift in attitude had made a remarkable difference.